and other fear in loving and being loved
You have something you love, and you can feel how losable it is. Fear moving through a bond, watching for the thing that could take it.
JEALOUS. Fear of losing what you already have. Someone or something could take the bond you're holding, and the body goes on alert to guard it. Brené Brown draws the line clean: jealousy fears losing what's yours; envy wants what someone else has. Different feeling, different family.
VIOLATED. A line that should have held got crossed. Something private or protected was breached without your consent, and the body registers the trespass as a wound. The fear underneath: your boundaries don't actually keep you safe.
OVERPROTECTIVE. Guarding someone so tightly the guarding starts to cost them. Love running on fear of loss, tightening around the person until the grip itself becomes the threat to the bond.
REJECTION SENSITIVITY. Q The bracing for rejection that comes from learning love can be pulled away at any moment. *(Full treatment in a later pass.)*
POSSESSIVE. Holding the bond too tight. THREATENED. The bond feels under siege. CLINGY. Gripping so it can't slip. RIVALROUS. Watching whoever could replace you. BREACHED. The boundary broken through. INTRUDED-ON. Someone got past the line. TRESPASSED. Entered where they weren't allowed.
This arc is fear growing up. It starts at alarm, builds walls, risks being seen, learns to hold two truths at once, and ends by facing the thing itself.