and other sadness when finding your base
The space between you and others getting wider. Sadness that shows up as withdrawal, or as the bond that stopped reaching back.
DISTANT. The body pulled back from contact. You and the world used to overlap; that overlap has thinned. The withdrawal may be yours, or the bond may have stopped reaching for you. Either way, the air between you and others has gotten longer.
ISOLATED. Alone in a way the body registers as physical. The bond-pattern with others is missing or disrupted. Distinct from solitude: solitude is being alone by choice with the bond intact; Isolation is being alone with the bond ruptured or never formed.
ABANDONED. The bond left while you were still in it. Someone was supposed to be there for you and isn't. Particular to the felt-sense that the leaving wasn't fair, that the rules of attachment were broken without your consent. The body registers it as a wound.
DISCONNECTED. The link between you and another gone slack. ALONE. Without others nearby. ESTRANGED. Distant from someone you used to be close to. SEPARATE. Apart and feeling it. DETACHED. Distance from the inside. WITHDRAWN. Pulled back on purpose. AVOIDANT. Distance kept up to stay safe. SHUNNED. Abandoned by group decision. OUTCAST. Abandoned and marked for it. EXILED. Abandoned and sent away. NEGLECTED. Abandonment that arrived as absence. UNSEEN. The body present but not registered. INVISIBLE. Present without being noticed at all. IGNORED. Someone is choosing not to see you. ALIENATED. Distance from the world as a whole. HOMESICK. Distant from the place that holds you.
This arc is the cost of staying attached in a world where things leave. It starts in depletion, passes through every form of losing, and ends in mourning that keeps loving what's gone.